The outcome of our lives is always up to us. We’re either pushing ourselves toward greatness or standing in our own way. Sure, life throws us curveballs we can’t predict and things don’t always go as planned, but the chance to make the most of this life is something that can never be taken away.
If you don’t believe this, it’s time to shift your perspective a bit. There’s no reason for you not to live the amazing, fulfilling life you deserve. If for whatever reason you think you don’t deserve such happiness, you’re probably in a mindset of self sabotage.
This serves you no good, and the sooner you snap out of it, the better.
Here are 10 tools you can use to change the way you think about your life and make your dreams come true.
Sometimes, the best way to get out of your own head is to journal.
Journaling makes you see things clearly. It gives you a moment to step back and think about a situation from all angles. It also shows you that things aren’t as bad as they seem and that you have so much to be thankful for and look forward to.
2. Talking to Others
While it’s nice to journal, it’s even better to sit down and talk to your friends and family. Self-sabotage doesn’t just get in the way of your success or overall happiness, but it creates barriers with your relationships too.
Spending more time with your loved ones and engaging in deep conversation with them breaks down these walls. Instead of pulling away, you learn to let others in and show them your vulnerability as well as your strengths.
There are benefits only therapy can provide.
This is something to consider if your self-sabotage has gone too far. Maybe you’ve fallen into depression or drug use. Maybe you don’t quite feel like yourself lately and you don’t know why.
Seek professional help. Regular therapy sessions can bring you back to yourself, your best self.
4. Letting Go
Another thing to consider is whether you just need to let go. There’s no sense in holding onto the things that no longer serve you. However, this is much easier said than done.
It’s hard to cut out toxic people in your life if you once told yourself these were close relationships with individuals you could count on. It’s hard to leave a “promising” job even if the work environment is toxic.
More so, it’s incredibly difficult to let go of things like blame, shame, and guilt. If you’ve made some questionable decisions in your life, you know exactly how this feels. Your road to stop sabotaging yourself starts with forgiving yourself.
Keep in mind that self-sabotage isn’t always mental. Are you a stress eater? Do you have a history of struggling with eating disorders or body issues?
Exercise can help. When you make working out a part of your regular routine, you learn things about your body that sitting on the couch could never show you. Plus, you start to appreciate your body more.
Exercising isn’t effective unless you take your gym efforts into the rest of your day. Over time, working out teaches you the value of eating well, hydrating properly, and getting good sleep.
6. Practicing Affirmation
Here’s something to think about: the conversations you have with yourself. If you’re always thinking in a negative manner, try practicing affirmations to turn your mindset around.
Affirmations are small truths or goals to focus on.
A truth would be something like “I am worthy of love”, “I deserve financial freedom”, or “I am enough.” A goal to use as an affirmation could be “Today I will make time for myself” or “This month is my time to find a job that empowers me.”
Whichever way you use an affirmation, though, remember it always has to be positive and to the point. Remember, you become what you think, so you may as well think good thoughts.
It’s nice to have pleasant thoughts and all, but without action, you won’t get far. This is why goal setting is important.
Maybe your self-sabotage isn’t anything extreme. Maybe you just have a horrible habit of putting things off until the last minute or forgetting to do important tasks.
Start setting small goals for yourself every day. This will chip away your bad habits little by little until all you’re left with is a goal-oriented mindset. That’s powerful – when you learn how to set goals and work hard to reach them, anything is possible.
8. Spending More Time in Nature
The next way to stop self-sabotaging yourself is to go outside. Nature makes you feel good, even if you don’t realize this yet. It’s true, there are proven benefits of spending more time outside.
Just a half hour a day of sitting in the sun, walking on the beach, or going for a hike can do wonders for you. Nature calms the mind and body. It helps you deal with stress, anxiety, tension, and much more.
What if you’re already doing some of the things on the list, but you need a little more help to completely stop your bad habits? Try meditation.
You don’t have to meditate for long. Simply five to 10 minutes a day can turn your whole day around.
Meditation makes you more aware of how you talk to yourself and treat your mind and body. It opens your eyes to how you can be more patient, honest, and understanding with yourself and with others.
Make this a regular habit and watch how your days of self-sabotage melt away.
At the end of the day, the best way to stop sabotaging yourself is to think of all the tools on this list as self-care. Yes, it’s good to “treat yourself” from time to time. Self-care is sometimes a nice meal or a long bubble bath.
It’s even more effective when it becomes a habit. Carve out time in your morning routine and before-bed routine to practice self-care. Self-care can be anything you want it to be so long as it’s beneficial for your quality of life.
Find what works for you and hold onto it. This is something that you can always rely on no matter how good or bad of a day you’ve had. It’s a tool that offers you mindfulness, relaxation, and a bit of pampering, which we can all use more of!
Turn Your Self Sabotage into Self-Love
The time to turn your life around is right now. Don’t waste another day falling into the traps of self sabotage. Instead, discover a deep love for all of who you are with the help of the tools listed above.
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