Have you been feeling a little low in the self-esteem department? Wondering how you can feel better about yourself?
Almost nobody can skip along through life always feeling happy and confident. And this is probably to our benefit – since we can really grow from struggles.
But if your struggles go on too long, it can leave you feeling down for the count. And soon, you get trapped in the cycle of self-sabotage.
Here are ten things you can do to boost your confidence and self-esteem.
The result? You’ll feel better, more attractive and happier.
1. Have a Sense of Humor
When you can laugh at something that would normally bother you, it takes off the pressure and helps you to see yourself in a positive light.
If you treat life with nothing but seriousness, it’ll show up in your face and your personality. This will give other people the wrong impression of you.
And when you let others define you, it doesn’t do much for your self-esteem. Especially if their definition doesn’t put you in the best light.
So crack a joke, have a good laugh and don’t be afraid to be imperfect.
2. Sleep More
The benefits of sleep are well-known.
Getting enough sleep helps our bodies to recover from the day and repair themselves. It also helps us focus and therefore be more productive.
But did you know that it’s also connected to our happiness?
In a study about sleep, researchers used a facial recognition task over the course of a day to study how sensitive participants were to positive and negative emotions.
Those who worked through the afternoon without taking a nap had an amplified reactivity to anger and fear emotions.
However, those who had a nap showed a far lower negative emotional reactivity to anger and fear, as well as enhanced ratings of positive expressions.
So if you want to make yourself more attractive, grab a few extra Zs when you can.
3. Smile and Feel Better About Yourself
Humans are social creatures. We feel better about ourselves when we know we’re attractive to others.
That’s why we’re programmed to read body language of others to scan for cues of safety and openness.
Smiling tells others you are warm and inviting, which can help how they see you.
But this also works for yourself. Try it. Go ahead and smile at yourself in the mirror as you would smile at a good friend. You’ll actually receive similar neural cues as you would if that good friend smiled back at you.
4. Get Moving
Exercise has a profound impact on feeling more attractive.
Of course it’s going to help you feel great in terms of how you look. When your body is healthy and fit, you’re going to feel better about yourself.
But you’ll ACTUALLY feel better. Exercise is a great way to take some time to get out your aggression, while releasing those feel-good chemicals called endorphins.
People who exercise regularly report an increase in confidence.
So give yourself the gift of fitness.
5. Give Compliments
How often do you talk up your friends and loved ones?
If you want to feel better and more attractive, then start giving some love. You’ll become immediately more appealing in the eyes of those you’re praising.
Making others feel good about themselves increases your attractiveness.
6. Practice Gratitude
This is one of the simplest strategies to increase happiness and satisfaction to feel better about yourself.
There are a lot of ways to practice gratitude. But whether it’s keeping a gratitude journal, sharing three good things that happen each day with a friend or your partner, or emphatically expressing gratitude when others help you, it will make a difference in your outlook.
In an experiment with two different groups of participants, the group who took note of things they were grateful for each day showed significant improvement in their moods.
And all with so little effort.
7. Stand (or Sit) Tall
Having good posture not only helps you looks good, but it can also make you feel good.
When you sit up straight, you naturally feel more confident and powerful. In fact, an upright posture can elevate testosterone, decreases cortisol (the fear/stress chemical), and increase feelings of power.
All of which lead to feeling better and more confident about yourself.
8. Go Outside
Making time to go outside on a nice day also delivers a huge advantage. It can boost positive mood, broaden thinking and improve working memory – all of which will leave you feeling better about yourself.
The American Meteorological Society published research in 2011 which found that temperature has a biggest effect on our happiness. In fact, according to their research, happiness is maximized at 51.2 degrees Fahrenheit (13.9 Celsius).
But even though it’s pretty tough to keep the temperature steady at 51 degrees, even just getting outside for 20 minutes on a beautiful day can make you feel more beautiful yourself.
9. Be Your Own Cheerleader
If you’re waiting to get compliments from others to boost your self-esteem, you’re going about it wrong.
While you’re smiling at yourself in the mirror, speak out loud the things you like about yourself. Then repeat these positive affirmations. By saying them over and over again, you’ll begin to validate those traits in yourself and appreciate them in others.
In other words, taking the time to actively notice positive qualities about yourself helps you to experience them more fully.”
10. Look At Your Relationships
If you have toxic people in your life, they may be preventing you from feeling your best.
Do family members or the people you call friends put you down a lot? Do they speak to you rudely?
If you immediately said no, you might not even be aware that it’s happening. And the energy you’re exerting to cast these people in a kinder light is taking a toll on your mental health.
Being around people who constantly drag you down cause your self-esteem to take a serious hit. So stick with people who spend their time supporting you and building you up.
It’ll give your confidence a serious boost.
Get Back on Track
It’s time to feel better about yourself. So give some (or all) of these methods a try.
You’re absolutely worth it!
And for more great tips on beauty, health and happiness, check back with us regularly.